How To Edge

Sexologist Alice Child shares her top tips on edging.

What techniques do you teach people to lower their arousal?

There are a number of ways you can decrease your arousal when you feel you are ‘at the edge’!’

• Remove touch completely 
• Slow down / make the touch less intense - eg turn down the setting on the vibrator, change your stroke/grip 
• Touch other parts of your body / spread the energy somewhere else
• Slow deep breathing or ‘square’ breaths 
• Making a loud noise on the exhale - eg a sigh / hum- helps diffuse some of the energy 
• Move your body - e.g. have a shake 
• Change position 
• Tense and release your kegels (pelvic floor muscles) 
• Visualise the sexual energy leaving your intimate area