How to choose the right lube for you

Navigating which lube is right for you can feel tricky - with so many textures, ingredients, and play styles, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed. But it doesn’t have to be complicated. The key is understanding your body, your needs, and the kind of intimacy you want to create.

Most lubes fall into one of three categories: water-based, silicone-based, or oil-based. Each has its own strengths, ideal uses, and considerations. 

🧠 Lube Types at a Glance

Water-Based Lubricants 

⭐ Best for: daily intimacy, toy play, condom use, sensitive skin

Water-based lubes are versatile, gentle, and toy-safe. They mimic your body’s natural lubrication and wash off easily, making them perfect for solo play or partnered intimacy where a natural feel matters.

✅ Pros

• Safe with all toys and condoms

• Gentle on sensitive skin

• Easy to wash off

⚠️ Considerations

• Can dry out faster than other types

• May need topping up during longer sessions

🛍️ SheSpot picks

• Sitre - Soft Wave Water Based Sex Gel - premium water-based lubricant designed for pleasure and everyday intimate care.

• Bouche Bee - All-Natural Moisturising Lube - mild, light in texture and made with 100% natural ingredients.

Silicone-Based Lubricants

⭐ Best for: longer sessions, water play, anal play, minimal reapplication.

Silicone-based lubes are ultra-slick and stay slippery longer because they don’t absorb into the skin. They perform beautifully in showers, baths, or tubs and are especially excellent for anal play, where sustained glide makes all the difference.

✅ Pros

• Extremely long-lasting

• Condom-safe

• Performs well in water

• Great for anal play

⚠️ Considerations

• Can take a little longer to wash off  

• Can stain sheets if not removed quickly

• Not compatible with silicone toys 

🛍️ SheSpot picks

• Uberlube - Silicone Lubricant - a global bestseller. Lightweight, non-sticky, with long lasting performance

• Maude - Shine Organic Silicone Lubricant -  ultra-concentrated, non-sticky, and made with just a few thoughtfully chosen ingredients, so a little goes a long way. 

Oil-Based Lubricants 

⭐ Best for: massage, body-to-body play, soothing vaginal dryness

Oil-based lubes offer long-lasting glide and a luxurious, indulgent feel. Natural plant oils like coconut and jojoba soothe sensitive tissue and create a protective emollient layer - perfect for personal massage or skin-to-skin play.

✅ Pros

• Long-lasting, minimal reapplication

• Sensual, velvety texture

• Can soothe dryness

• Compatible with most toys

⚠️ Considerations

• Not compatible with latex condoms

• Harder to clean from toys and sheets

• Can take a little longer to wash off

🛍️ SheSpot pick

• YES® COCO Oil-Based Lubricant - organic coconut blended with jojoba for smooth, nourishing glide. MTick-approved for perimenopause and menopause dryness and safe for those trying to conceive. 

Special Extras 

✨ Arousal Oils & Gels. 

There are a range of arousal blends, in both oil and gel format, designed to support blood flow, heighten sensitivity and arousal.  Explore our curated range of Arousal Oils & Gels here. 

✨ Use with Massage.

 A number of our oil based lubricants double up as rich massage oils for all over play. Try Sitre's Body Melt Care & Intimacy Massage Oil for an indulgent blend made from all-natural ingredients. 

✨ Hypoallergenic.

Extra gentle formulations are ideal for sensitive skin and reducing irritation. The YES® Organic Water-Based Lubricant is a rigorously tested, gynae approved choice - light, calming, and pH-balanced for extra comfort.

💬 Final Thought

There’s no “one right lube” - only the one that feels a good fit for your mood and needs of your body. At SheSpot, we only offer lubes containing clean ingredients, and body-safe formulas, so you can explore what matters: feeling good, effortlessly.