The benefits of getting a vibrator or a sex toy

SheSpot sexologist Alice Child talks us through some of the key benefits of using a vibrator. Read on to find out more!

What are the benefits of getting a vibrator or a sex toy?

Sex toys not only bring both partners amazing new sensations and pleasure, but they can also help both people feel more excited, curious, playful and turned on. They are also great for overcoming sexual concerns, such as difficulty orgasming, painful sex, erectile difficulty, performance anxiety, low libido, different sex drives, and premature ejaculation. 

Difficulty orgasming 

Did you know that between 70-90% of women don't reach orgasm with internal stimulation or penetration alone? That’s why learning how to give yourself and/or your partner great external clitoral stimulation during sex is so important. 

And although my first recommendations for people struggling with orgasm are always taking your time,  learning pleasure anatomy, trying mindful masturbation and booking in a sex coaching session, adding a sex toy like a vibrator can really mix things up and give you the helping hand you need.

Performance Anxiety`

Lots of people get nervous during sex which can lead to challenges such as premature ejaculation, difficulty orgasming / faking orgasms, or erectile difficulties. It's always helpful to remove the pressure of 'performance', and remember that sex is many things - great sex doesn't need to end in orgasm or have penetration of any kind. 

Having toys in the bedside drawer removes the pressure that a lot of people put on themselves. Plus, certain toys can help make erections easier to get or maintain (eg cock rings & strokers).

New sensations and learning new types of pleasure/ orgasm

Vibrators come in all shapes and sizes and can really expand the different kinds of pleasure your body is capable of. Some places (eg the G-spot and the prostate) can be harder to reach without certain shaped toys. Plus, some types of orgasm (eg g-spot) or multiple orgasms might be easier to reach with the help of a toy.

Reduced sensation or painful sex

Vibrators can be really helpful for people who are experiencing reduced sensation for any reason. Plus, many people who experience painful sex use an external vibrator to help them build arousal without fear of penetration and pain. Remember, sex should never be painful, so if you're struggling please consider booking in a session.

Trying new things

Vibrators and sex toys in general are a great way to bring more fun, novelty, and newness into your sex life.  Explore your whole body and enjoy this new sensation. You might be surprised what you discover!

Remember - your whole body is an erogenous zone and there are endless ways of feeling pleasure and achieving orgasms  -  not just those caused by genital stimulation. People can have orgasms from nipple play, erotic massage, when they are asleep, or even (with practice!) from tantric breathing.

Vibrators are just one tool to use when exploring your body's capacity for pleasure.